Comments on Mooselet Musings: Miss Thing Update

You took me back 20+ years, when I was the Miss Th...

2009-09-04T19:33:28.449+10:00

You took me back 20+ years, when I was the Miss Thing--my Mom would have called me Miss Monster! It was her-as A Free Man said- detached support and love that got me through an interesting stage of life. On the bright side she is now my best friend in the world.

I just love reading your teen-angst blogs cause it...

2009-08-28T20:21:10.971+10:00

I just love reading your teen-angst blogs cause it makes our household dramas seem just normal! Ok, you have a few years on me in the developmental timeframe, but knowing that someone else out there feels like banging their head against the wall at the frustrations of parenting these kids is somewhat comforting!

Oh boy, teenagers (or early 20s?). I think when th...

2009-08-28T11:53:16.886+10:00

Oh boy, teenagers (or early 20s?). I think when they get to this stage of life the best thing you can do is to pull back and let them get on with it. They've got to make huge mistakes and you've got to let them. No fun. But the only way for you to stay sane. Detach with love.

LOL @ Shepster! Life is full of making big decisi...

2009-08-28T09:56:08.126+10:00

LOL @ Shepster!

Life is full of making big decisions and living with them, she's going to need to get used to doing that on her own at some point.

We all do!

Show her some of these appropriate responses and l...

2009-08-28T01:19:28.075+10:00

Show her some of these appropriate responses and let her choose her options. Then you're not the bad guy.

Yes, the camper! I know a family who have their da...

2009-08-27T13:13:08.937+10:00

Yes, the camper! I know a family who have their daughter in the camper. Perfect!

Good luck to you all. I think a drivers licence will certainly help too. At least you'll be able to get those hours up now.

I meant uncomfortable enough to make her look for ...

2009-08-27T13:11:14.764+10:00

I meant uncomfortable enough to make her look for someWHERE else, not someONE else....although... whatever works lol.

Hammock strung between two trees?

2009-08-27T11:35:46.542+10:00

Hammock strung between two trees?

I thought you had a camper van.... seems like a pe...

2009-08-27T09:48:34.493+10:00

I thought you had a camper van.... seems like a perfectly good place for a teen to stay whilst she gets her shit together. That way it doesn't put anyone in the house out and is just comfortable enough to suffice, but uncomfortable enough to make her look for someone else.

That sounds win win to me :-)

I did consider the sofa, but then it becomes an in...

2009-08-27T09:10:27.807+10:00

I did consider the sofa, but then it becomes an inconvenience for everyone else as well. Still debating about the granny flat, but that's The Hermit's office/gym as well. I've left that final call to him. And she will be paying some rent and utilities no matter where she ends up.

Mama Mooselet is a wise lady and has good advice. ...

2009-08-27T02:21:34.545+10:00

Mama Mooselet is a wise lady and has good advice. I also like Shepster's idea for Miss Thing to get the sofa or actually pay rent for the granny apartment.

Hang in there. Holler if you need Reece's PB cups and I'll send a shipment.

I vote for a fold-out in the den, plus a stipend t...

2009-08-27T02:11:23.361+10:00

I vote for a fold-out in the den, plus a stipend to cover food and utilities.

The granny flat should be kept available for visitors. Or, if she wants that, she should pay a reasonable rent to cover utilities.

Neither is harsh. She's legally an adult, and needs to remember that and act accordingly.

You are right - some things never change. She has...

2009-08-27T01:39:54.072+10:00

You are right - some things never change. She has yet to grow up. I'd love to give you some wise advice, but most of what I would say would probably not help. I think you and the Hermit ( and Her Majesty) are being overly generous by not going forward with the plans to redo Sparky's old room. A fold out in the den is a place to sleep after all, or one in the Granny flat.
Not being the center of the universe is a hard pill to swallow at the age of 18. Most of us were a lot younger when we figured it out.