What Part of NO Isn't Clear?

You may remember this post back in August where I talked about how the Bastard, my ex-husband, was bombarding me with friend requests on Facebook. After I let that last request linger in my requests box for ages, I finally clicked the ignore button. Shortly after that I ceased seeing him on Facebook. Not only did he stop attempting to add me as a friend but anything he posted on Miss Thing's wall vanished as well. Took me a little bit to realize that he had blocked me, because... well I don't know why. My repeated rejections angered him and he thought he'd show me by blocking me? Um, yeah...

Then in October I received a message via Facebook from his current wife. Along with accusing me of saying unkind things to the kids about the Bastard (and for the record "the Bastard" is his blog name, not how I refer to him to Miss Thing and Sparky) to the children, of not being understanding enough of his problems, of all kinds of hatred towards him, of coming between her and Miss Thing and probably of causing the GFC was the accusation of pettiness because I denied the "olive branch" the Bastard threw to me on Facebook when he tried to befriend me, hoping we could get along for the children's sake.

Honestly, you can't make this shit up.

I'm pretty proud of the fact that I didn't go apeshit over all the crap being slung in my direction. I stayed very calm and rational when I told her exactly what I told the kids about their father, that my understanding had its limits, that I no longer hated him, that I never came between any relationship that existed between her and Miss Thing and that I did indeed cause the GFC. Ok, I made that last one up. But here's what I said in relation to the "olive branch" repeatedly tossed my way:

As for me not accepting *******'s friend request here... he may have meant it as some sort of "olive branch", but there are other ways of reaching out. I have an email address and a phone number. My Facebook "life" is a direct reflection of *my* personal business and *my* current life that ******* has no part in, nor do I want him to. I'm sorry if that hurts his feelings, but that's how it is. I fail to see how being friends with him on Facebook will help facilitate a better relationship between himself and our children that cannot be achieved in a way outside of Facebook. I did not respond to his several friend requests by blocking him, which is how he responded to my refusal to accept. Please do not accuse me of not putting the past behind me and casting ugliness when this sort of thing happens.

The reply I received to that portion of my message was this:

It did not hurt his feelings at all, about you not accepting his "friend request", he thought you could be friends after all these years, which I was in total agreement with. I just hope that someday we can all get along the way we should.

After I retrieved my eyeballs when they escaped their sockets from the massive eyeroll the above caused, I answered thusly:

However, asking me to be friends with ******* is perhaps asking too much of me, given the nature of mine and *******'s relationship. If you see this as a weakness on my part, or lingering animosity, or whatever label you chose so be it. I don't hate him or even have any anger over it - I let that go ages ago - but I have to do what I have to do to keep my own mental state happy and healthy. That doesn't mean I would interfere with any attempts to talk to the kids, or say anything that would do that, it just means I won't be buddy-buddy. I think that beats open hostility, don't you?

That's pretty clear, right? No wiggle room there, no waffling, no room for changing my mind or giving any indication I might do so in the future. Not. Interested.

Then last week I received a friend request. Again. What. The. FUCK?!?!

I determined it was, indeed, him, that his picture looked like that of a serial killer and that he again sent no request to Sparky. Let's send one to the ex-wife who has rejected him 5 times but not to the son for whose sake we're trying to "get along". I ignored it... then got another one yesterday.

I had resisted blocking him because it felt cowardly. I have come to the conclusion it's not. If the moron won't understand the words I laid out very clearly above, that I'm not interested in being his friend, then it's time to stop letting him ask.

Anyone wanna place bets about how long it takes before I get an email or message accusing me of being a total bitch?